Most young adults spend their twenties getting to figure out who they are. Date, travel, try new things and make mistakes. I spent my early twenties working a 40 hour work week while raising a baby. When she was 10 months old her father and I decided not to be together. I felt like I placed a large burden on my family by deciding to leave her father and constantly worried if I was doing what was best for my daughter. I had a house payment, utilities, student loans, and daycare to pay for. I felt like I was a lost child with a child. During this low point in my life, I became depressed and made poor choices. I lost my job and respect from my family. Later, I was able to find a job and get some financial assistance. Thankfully my neighbor and daycare provider encouraged me to go to church. Since going and accepting that God had forgiven me of my sins, I have been able to overcome my mistakes. God has helped me face fears and figure out who I am.
After joining my church, I’ve slowly came out of my shell and show my strengths. God gives everyone special talents and gifts and should we never be afraid to share them. I have always had a drive to help people, an open ear and a warm heart. Feeling the need to volunteer my free time while my daughter spent some evenings with her dad, I was directed to Option 1. Having been through so many struggles of my own raising a child, I felt this organization was perfect for me. Now that my daughter will be in kindergarten fill time, I’m taking the leap of faith that God wants more form me. I believe, God wants me to show my daughter that with faith and hard work anything is possible.
Over the years I’ve learned little tricks like doing 10 to 15 minutes of house work in the morning and before bed will eliminate house chores from building up. Having a budget is a necessity not an option. Having a meal plan is helpful when keeping that budget. Save money when possible, even 10 dollars a paycheck will add up over time. Finding a person you can confide in is important. You can’t bottle up your emotions and expect your child to not notice when you’re crying because something is bothering you. You have to stay strong not just for yourself but for the little person that sees and hears everything you do. Having a church community will keep you busy if you’re trying to find something to be involved with. Picking my battles. I try to only react to the things that truly affect our daughter. Making time to have alone time or just friends. Most importantly pray and read scripture.
One of my biggest drives for my daughter has been to provide stability. Providing structure and the same daycare provider since she was 18 months I think has made it easier to raise her over the years. Bedtime is hardly ever a struggle, most nights she crawls in bed on her own and is sleeping within minutes. Routine helps us get things accomplished in the morning and at night. I can tell when something is wrong because she will seem a little off.
It definitely hasn’t been easy and I have had my fair share of lemons, whether life or myself has handed them to me. As a single mother I wonder if I will find someone for myself and my daughter. I know God will provide the right person in our life when the time is right. No need to rush it or worry about it. I wouldn’t trade my life for anything. I am raising a beautiful, intelligent daughter who brings out the best in me.
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